I’m a loud and proud Princess Bride fan! From each inconceivable, to every as you wish (accompanied by Cary Elwes devilish smile of course) I’m easily sucked into the innocent, love steeped journey of these delightful fairy-tale characters. I love being whisked away to another world by the swashbuckling pirates, misguided thieves, a hunchback lackey, and disgruntled fired castle employees. I admit, I rarely avoid the temptation to quote iconic delicious one liners from this movie:
-Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.
-Anybody want a peanut?
-Death cannot stop true love. All it can do it delay it for a while.
-Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.
-Have fun storming the castle!
-I’m not a witch, I’m your wife!
-Mawidge. That bwessed awangement.
And a year ago, when I was sitting with the surgeon discussing how they were going to proceed with my lumpectomy, I could actually hear the line, “there’s a shortage of perfect breasts in this world, it would be a pity to damage yours” being recited in the back of my head.
In Cary Elwes’ book As You Wish, where he tells the tale of how the iconic movie came to be, he takes a brief moment to wonder what his life would’ve been like if he’d said ‘yes’ to the generous offer from a theatre company before discovering the available role of the dreamy Westley. The theatre offer was a prestigious one that other actors would slip iocaine powder in the drink of a competitor to have, but it wasn’t exactly what he wanted so he graciously passed on the offer. Amazingly enough, if he had said ‘yes’ to this esteemed position, he would’ve never even been considered for the part in The Princess Bride. Turns out saying ‘no’ to an opportunity other actors would kill for, put him in the right place at the right time to be looked at for this legendary role.
It struck me how powerful the word ‘no’ can be. I have always liked trying new things and saying ‘yes’ to crazy escapades, but I need to remind myself that just because an opportunity presents itself doesn’t mean ‘yes’ is always the right answer in response to it.
Often saying ‘no’ is the brave and adventurous thing to say.
I used to believe that saying ‘yes’ was the only courageous answer to an adventure, but the truth is, saying ‘yes’ can leave me feeling overwhelmed, spread thin, or taken advantage of when it’s attached to something that my heart isn’t into. If there’s guilt or fear attached to my choice of answer, then it isn’t the right one for me.
With January being the obvious month to look at intentions for the upcoming year, I’m reminding myself that I’m allowed to make decisions that bring me joy, and need to remember that the world is just one big… as you wish.